Spring is the iconical and literal season for new life.
Babies are being born, trees are starting to show their new blooms, the grass
is getting wild and love is in the air. Okay, maybe that last part is a stretch
but who knows, maybe not. Spring is a time for newness and fresh beginnings, so
death really has no place in this happy season, right? With beautiful flowers
popping up in yards all over town and children laughing and playing, how can
the pall of death spring up?
As inevitable as spring may be each year, death is equally
so. Like it or not, death reminds us that some things must go away even when so
much is just coming into existence; it’s all of that ‘circle of life’ business.
Maybe the better way to put it is to say that in some cases, it is death that
precedes new life. Personally, I like to think of it that way.
Death also has a funny way of helping us clear up thoughts,
emotions, habits, routines and opinions. Many people have trouble with this
simply because change is not always easy. We carry around a lot of extra weight
on a daily basis and it is death that exposes that excess. For a brief moment
following death, we carry around despair, but eventually we develop new
thoughts, emotions, habits, routines and opinions. Out of death comes something
new, every time.
Understanding this new direction is important, it helps us
cope and manage in difficult times. Most of us do not welcome death for death’s
sake, but fear it for fear’s sake. As a result, we are often scared prior to
death because of the unknown nature that follows. If you grab hold of the
spring that rises out of your winter, you will see the new life that awaits
you.
This isn’t some inspirational speech but more of a wake up
call. We all need one occasionally in order to recognize that which is still
living around us. Getting caught up in that which is dead harkens to those
habits and routines we carry around. When a tree loses a branch it doesn’t die,
it learns to get along. That may be a harsh representation but imagine if the
branch was blocking a view of the mountains. We now have a new view; an angle
we hadn’t noticed before.
New life simply means new perspective. Our ideas are rarely
born out of our ruts; they are usually created by plowing a new road. This is
not without work mind you, but the reward is always an easier path, even if it
comes with a few blisters.
As a new season dawns here in the High Desert,
there are bound to be some heavy hearts that are aching with the grief of
death. If you are among them, take heart, there is something new on the
horizon. Welcome the spring, breathe in some fresh air and see that every day
is brand new; a day that has never existed before, a view you hadn’t noticed.
You may never look at spring the same way again.
1 comment:
My take on the Five + One Stages of Death that lead to a Better Life.
Denial - This one makes sense you do not want to believe you have lost a loved one and it is easier to deny than accept
Anger - Not sure this one always plays out in order hard being angry if the one you loved was suffering.
Bargaining - Understand the need to rationalize with the deep feelings you have and the longing to know GOD's purpose.
Depression - I really think this one comes second when you celebrate the first Christmas, Birthday, or special event without the one you've lost.
Acceptance - Admission to yourself that the person is gone and recognize life will go on even though you may miss the life and joy that you were blessed to know.
That brings me to the new addition to the five stages of grief/death Joy
Joy - Is the feeling you get when you reflect on the laughs, adventures, and tears you had the pleasure to experience.
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